ARE YOU UNHAPPY? ~ STAY JUICY!

•January 28, 2013 • 5 Comments

ARE YOU UNHAPPY? DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE SIMPLY WALKING THROUGH YOUR LIFE?

 

THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL!

 

AS LONG AS YOU ARE STRIVING TO FIT IN INSTEAD OF SHINING IN YOUR OWN RIGHT, YOU WILL SUFFER.

 

 

 

 

EACH OF US WAS GIVEN LIFE IN ORDER TO FIND OUR PASSION AND TO MAKE THAT BE THE WAY WE CONTRIBUTE TO THE WORLD.

 

 

 

 

HAVE YOU FOUND WHAT YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT?

WHEN YOU FOCUS ON OTHERS RATHER THAN YOURSELF YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS.

 

 

 

 

WE ARE EACH A UNIQUE PIECE OF THE GOD FORCE, HERE TO LIGHT THE WAY FOR OTHERS LESS FORTUNATE.

 

 

JUST BECAUSE YOU’VE ALWAYS BEEN A CERTAIN WAY DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN’T CHANGE.

 

 

EVERY DAY YOU GET ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO BE THE BEST YOU POSSIBLE. HAVE GRATITUDE FOR EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.

 

 

AND NEVER FORGET THAT LIFE IS A PRECIOUS GIFT YOU’VE BEEN GIVEN BY GOD. MAKE YOUR LIFE COUNT! ~ STAY JUICY!

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GOT PEACE OF MIND? ~ STAY JUICY!

•January 16, 2013 • 2 Comments

HOW’S YOUR PEACE OF MIND?

DO YOU SPEND A LOT OF TIME WORRYING ABOUT THE FUTURE? WHAT ABOUT RIGHT NOW?

IF YOU FOCUS YOUR TIME LIVING IN THE PAST OR WORRYING ABOUT THE FUTURE, YOU HAVE NO SPACE TO ENJOY THIS MOMENT. EVERYTHING IS ALMOST ALWAYS FINE IN EACH MOMENT, AND WHAT ELSE IS THERE REALLY?

When you create a problem, you create pain. All it takes is a simple choice, a simple decision: no matter what happens, I will create no more pain for myself. I will create no more problems. Although it is a simple choice, it is also very radical. You won’t make that choice unless you are truly fed up with suffering, unless you have truly had enough. And you won’t be able to go through with it unless you access the power of the Now. If you create no more pain for yourself, then you create no more pain for others. You also no longer contaminate the beautiful Earth, your inner space, and the collective human psyche with the negativity of problem-making. ~ Eckhart Tolle

THIS IS THE TIME TO THROW OFF THE BURDEN OF WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU. NO ONE BUT YOU CAN KNOW WHAT’S IN YOUR BEST INTEREST AND WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

CHOOSE TO BE ON YOUR OWN SIDE.

PEACE OF MIND COMES WHEN YOU ACCEPT YOUR LIFE AS IT IS. EVERYONE HAS A JOURNEY THEY ARE HERE TO MAKE.

TRUST THAT YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING EXACTLY WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU NOW.

IF YOU WANT TO MAKE THAT FUTURE BRIGHT, START THINKING ABOUT OTHERS. HAVE YOU FOUND YOUR PASSION?

ARE YOU DOING THINGS THAT HELP OTHERS? BEING OF SERVICE IS THE VERY BEST WAY TO CREATE HAPPINESS AND PEACE IN YOUR OWN LIFE.

THE GREAT BENEFIT IS THAT YOU WILL CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS ALONG THE WAY.

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ARE YOU SAYING THINGS LIKE “I’M NEVER GOING TO BE HAPPY?”

WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF IS WHAT YOU WILL CREATE IN YOUR LIFE!

 

THIS TAKES SERIOUS WORK TO STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND JUDGMENT OF YOURSELF AND EVERYONE ELSE.

YOUR LIFE CAN BE AS PEACEFUL AS YOU ALLOW. WHAT’S STOPPING YOU?

1. Life can be challenging ~ Embrace it anyway. What’s the alternative? You’re here, you’re alive, everything else depends on how you play it out and the choices you make. Make choices that are in your best interest. If you don’t, who will you have to blame?

2. Lose the negative influences in your life ~ Anyone who moans and groans, complaining about their plight is someone you need to forget. Surround yourself with positive people and you will become more like them.

3. Accept your life as it is ~ Then start dreaming of ways you can do things to help others who are less fortunate and watch your life change for the better.

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BE BRAVE, SHOW COMPASSION TO YOURSELF AND EVERYONE ELSE.

AND REMEMBER, IF YOU WANT TO STAY YOUNG, VITAL AND LIVE A WONDERFULLY SPIRIT-FILLED LIFE ~ STAY JUICY!

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WANNA BE HAPPY? ~ STAY JUICY!

•December 4, 2012 • 7 Comments

Photo: Life is good. Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else. You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do. So pay attention to your outlook on life. You can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice. – via: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/09/28/9-rules-for-turning-endings-into-new-beginnings/

IT SURE IS! IF YOU ARE BUSY THINKING ABOUT WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU DO, YOU WON’T NOTICE HOW BEAUTIFUL LIFE REALLY IS.

 

HAPPINESS CAN BE ELUSIVE IF YOU DON’T KNOW THE SECRET PATH THERE.

 

IT STARTS WITH SELF-LOVE. YES, THAT AGAIN. SELF-LOVE IS AT THE CORE OF ALL HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT.

 

Photo: When you become your own best friend, life gets easier. There is nothing to hold you back except you. You are limited only by your imagination. Rest in the knowledge that you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone’s heart but your own. – via: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/11/14/15-reasons-to-run-for-your-life/

 

DOESN’T THAT SOUND SIMPLE? IT REALLY ISN’T BECAUSE WE ARE SOCIALIZED TO THINK SELF-LOVE EQUALS SELFISHNESS.

THIS IS WHERE YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOUR HEART Heart (symbol)INSTEAD OF YOUR HEAD.

 

NEWS FLASH: HAPPINESS COMES ONLY WHEN YOU RECOGNIZE THE BEAUTIFUL DIVINE NATURE WITHIN YOU AND EMBRACE YOUR ENTIRETY, NO MATTER HOW FLAWED YOU BELIEVE YOURSELF TO BE.

 

YOU ARE A UNIQUE WONDERFUL BEING. THERE WILL NEVER BE ANOTHER YOU.

 

YOU JUST HAVEN’T FOUND YOUR PURPOSE YET. WE ARE ALL HERE TO BE OF SERVICE TO ONE ANOTHER.

IF YOU HAVEN’T REALIZED THIS YET, NO WONDER YOU’RE SUFFERING.

 

WHAT MOVES YOU AND MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF? IF YOU DON’T KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION, START THINKING!

 

1.  VOLUNTEER somewhere that can use your efforts. There are tons of places that need help. Call your Volunteer Center for ideas.

2.  WORK HARDER at your job. Find ways to help people you hadn’t considered. Everyone you meet can be affected by your generosity of spirit . You have a job. How lucky are you?

3.  LISTEN to music that inspires you. Music can change a bad mood in no time flat!

4.  READ an inspirational book. Get some perspective on how lucky you are by reading about others less fortunate (like 95% of the rest of the world).

5.  CONCENTRATE on what you have, not on what you don’t have.

6. GET OUTSIDE and feel, smell, and listen to the world around you. Nature is aways perfect. The life force you take for granted is alive and vital outside in every plant, the sky, the flowers, and every living being.

7.  HAVE GRATITUDE for absolutely everything, even the things that are difficult to appreciate.

 

AND HERE’S ONE OF THE BIGGEST ROUTES TO HAPPINESS AND SELF-LOVE

 

This is frequently a tough one for people. But holding on to resentment, old stories and anger will only make you sick. And it's the worst kind of sickness, too. It's the kind that depletes your energy and blocks your ability to love as fully and deeply as you could. It's the kind that has a grip on you, that hasn't entirely let you go. But the uncomfortable truth is, if you're full of resentment and pain over something in your past, you are the one who's holding on.</p> <p>Sometimes people feel if they forgive it's like saying whatever happened is okay. There's some desire to keep score, to hold that tally card and make sure it's marked correctly, in permanent ink. But nothing in this life is forever, and nothing is certain, either. Forgiving people and eventually wishing them well is not the same as saying whatever happened is okay with you. It just means your commitment to your own peace and happiness is greater than your determination to file away another person's transgression in the library of your soul. Because in order to keep those feelings of anger or pain alive, you have to feed them, you have to stoke the flame every so often. Retell the story to a new friend, or re-boil yourself over it on a dark day. It takes a lot of energy to carry heavy stories around with you everywhere. But if you get more interested in your own healing, you won't want to tell that old story anymore, or keep it alive in your heart. </p> <p>Forgiving someone means you are unhooking your journey from theirs. You are saying, in effect, that you are not letting your past dictate your future, you are not going to drag old feelings into new situations, you are not going to allow yourself to be defined by things that have happened to you. You are taking responsibility for your own happiness. And that unhooking is also a detaching. I don't believe it's possible to detach without doing the work to heal first. Without leaning into your pain and acknowledging it, without having compassion for yourself. But when you've given yourself the time, space and respect to move through all those feelings, I believe you can let it go. Liberate yourself. Open yourself up to new stories, new experiences with more knowledge and understanding about yourself. And when you detach and remove the charge from the situation, there's really no reason not to wish someone well. To hope that they'll heal. I fully realize this is where the "we are all one" conversation becomes extraordinarily challenging. But if you really believe that, as I do, then you have to want everyone to heal. To grow, to open, to move toward love. Because the more healed and loving people we have walking around on this planet, the better it is for everyone.</p> <p>Commit to your own well-being. Take charge of your story and start to co-create it in a way that feels good to you. Forgive life if you need to, with the understanding that is isn't fair, and that sometimes unbelievably painful losses will fall upon you, maybe more so than others. The ride of life does not take place on a level field, after all. Become more interested in your own healing, in your own potential to feel the limitless love you have within you. Don't let anyone or anything rob you of that. That's your light. People will do and say all kinds of incomprehensible things in this life, love them, anyway. That doesn't mean you have to want to hang out with them. It just means take your power back. Because life is short. I don't believe there's any time to make yourself sick with resentment. As the Buddha famously said, "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned". Don't burn yourself anymore if you have been. Love yourself. Heal yourself. Free yourself. And shine. Sending you much love, as I always am.<br /> -Ally Hamilton

 

RELEASE YOURSELF FROM THE BURDEN OF BLAME, SHAME AND ANGER ~ THE ONE YOU HURT MOST BY HOLDING ON IS YOURSELF.

 

NO ONE BUT YOU SUFFERS EACH TIME YOU REMIND YOURSELF OF A HURT OR BETRAYAL. WE ALL HAVE THEM, THEY’RE JUST A PART OF LIFE. ACCEPT THEM, LEARN THE LESSONS AND KEEP ON TRUCKING!

 

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THAT’S IT. YOUR ATTITUDE IS THE BIGGEST HELP OR HINDRANCE TO YOUR HAPPINESS AND WELL BEING.

 

 

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FIND A WAY TO SMILE ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU APPRECIATE ABOUT YOUR LIFE. I DARE YOU TO FIND 20 THINGS TO CELEBRATE.

 

Happiness is an Action Verb

 

 

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. CHOOSE TO BE GRATEFUL. CHOOSE TO LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE PUT ON EARTH TO LIVE. ~ STAY JUICY!

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GOT JUICY? ~ STAY JUICY!

•November 13, 2012 • Leave a Comment

DO YOU THINK OF FRUIT WHEN YOU HEAR THE WORD JUICY?

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SURE, FRUIT IS USUALLY JUICY WHEN IT’S RIPE. WELL, EXCEPT FRUIT LIKE BANANAS. BUT I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT FRUIT.

JUICY IS AN ATTITUDE THAT KEEPS YOU YOUNG AND APPEALING. JUICY ALWAYS COMES WITH A SMILE. LIKE THIS ONE:

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AND THESE:

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THIS ONE TOO:

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NO JUICY IN THE PERSON ON THE LEFT.

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LOOK. ALL SHE HAD TO DO WAS SMILE AND SHE LOOKED LIKE A WHOLE DIFFERENT PERSON.

WHICH ONE OF THE TWO WOULD YOU RATHER SPEND TIME WITH? RIGHT?

That's what self-love is.

JUICY HAS TO DO WITH LOVING YOURSELF

 

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SELF-LOVE IS NOT SELFISHNESS. IT DOESN’T MEAN THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF TO THE EXCLUSION OF OTHERS. IT MEANS MAKING CHOICES THAT ARE GOOD FOR YOU AND THAT HELP DIRECT YOU TOWARD HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT.

 

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FEED YOURSELF A DIET OF SELF-LOVE EVERYDAY. GIVE YOURSELF PROPS FOR EVERYTHING ADMIRABLE ABOUT YOU. CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING? LOOK AGAIN!

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YOU GET UP EVERY DAY AND DO THE THINGS YOU NEED TO DO. IF YOU DON’T ENJOY DOING THEM, MAKE OTHER CHOICES.

 

FIND WHAT YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT DOING AND DO THAT.

 

TRY A LITTLE KINDNESS TO OTHERS. NOTHING HELPS YOU FEEL BETTER THAN ESTEEMABLE. ACTS.

 

 

PRACTICE SELF-LOVE EVERYDAY AND PRETTY SOON, YOU’VE GOT IT!

 

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HAPPINESS COMES FROM WITHIN ALWAYS.  

 

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Following your heart is the best way to help others and to STAY JUICY.

 

You can be stunned, awakened, and changed by what happens to you, but choose to grow from it, and refuse to be reduced by it. Repeat after me: “I am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges. I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory. I will turn all of my tales of woe into tales of WOW!” via: www.marcandangel.com

 

NOW IS A TIME OF GREAT CHANGE. OLD RELATIONSHIPS THAT NO LONGER WORK ARE DISSOLVING TO MAKE SPACE FOR MORE RELEVANT ONES. YOU WILL LOOK BACK AT THIS TIME AND UNDERSTAND. YOUR LIFE GOING FORWARD CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WISH TO CREATE. LOVE YOURSELF AND EVERYONE ELSE. BE OF GREATER SERVICE. HAVE APPRECIATION FOR ALL YOUR BLESSINGS AND LIFE WILL LOVE YOU BACK.

 

START LOVING YOURSELF AND WATCH YOUR WORLD CHANGE

~ STAY JUICY!

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YOU ARE AMAZING! ~ STAY JUICY!

•September 28, 2012 • 8 Comments

You probably have no idea how appealing you are to other people. You probably don’t notice the admiring looks you get because you’re so caught up in self-criticism, the truth doesn’t filter through that thick fog of self-doubt. Everyone is amazing, you just need to believe this first yourself.

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If you don’t like some aspect of yourself, like your weight or another physical trait, do something about it. Lord knows I’ve spent years unhappy about the extra 20 pounds I carry around without making the effort to simply walk more. I know that works. Eat less, walk more. It works every time. Yet the only time I followed my own advice was when I had a job that required I walk over the entire facility so much, I naturally looked 20 pounds thinner. Was I happier and did I feel better about myself? Absolutely! Did that motivate me to stay thinner? Apparently not. We sabotage ourselves and our happiness so many ways.

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If you’ve never challenged yourself, you’ll never know how much you can transform the aspects of yourself that make you unhappy. Don’t follow trends first of all. Just because it’s the in hair style or fashion doesn’t mean it works for you. Look in the mirror. Assess who you really are and what looks best on you in all areas, and stick with that. Stop chasing uniformity and trying to fit in. Be your own role model and others will admire you for being unique and true to yourself.

Stop this very minute thinking you are getting old. Your thoughts create your reality. If you get a few twinges in your knees and you start thinking “I’m getting old”, or “That’s grandma Fanny’s arthritis showing up in me”, these things will come true. They don’t have to. YOU CREATE YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE THROUGH YOUR THOUGHTS, BELIEFS AND CHOICES. You can tell the knee twinges to get lost and if your family has arthritis, just say “Pass!” and stick with that attitude. You don’t have to follow the rest of the pack walking around glorifying Victoria Secret models as the epitome of nubile female perfection. If everyone looked like these models, it would be a boring world.

YOU ARE AN AMAZING UNIQUE EXPRESSION OF THE GOD FORCE! 

NO ONE WILL EVER BE YOU BUT YOU.     EMBRACE YOUR UNIQUENESS!!!

 

Everything you say and think is taken literally by your unconscious as fact, even when you’re kidding and even when you’re being sarcastic. Saying “This job is killing me” over and over can result in a gradual downturn of health. Anyone who tells me something is “to die for” makes me want to run in the opposite direction. I WANT TO LIVE FOR EVERYTHING. Watch your words and thoughts. They could be harmful to your health!

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They’ve proven this fact of science in studies where they performed an experiment with the a group of observer predisposed to a positive outcome and another group to a negative outcome. The experiment where the observers believed it work, worked. The group observing the very same controlled experiment expecting it to fail, failed. This study has been replicated many times with the same results. OUR BELIEFS CREATE OUR REALITY!

This means you will create whatever you tell yourself is the story of your life. Pay attention to what your head is saying to you as you walk through your day. Lots of those thoughts are self-critical, demeaning of others and fear-based. If your thoughts are the caldron within which you create, wouldn’t it be more fun to have happy, positive, loving thoughts swirling around in there?

So start becoming conscious in ways you never dreamt of before. Understand that words and thoughts are powerful….that they actually create your experience. If everyone understood that, they wouldn’t keep saying they were getting old. They would focus instead on how wonderful the breeze felt as they walked down the familiar streets of their neighborhood. They would concentrate on having positive happy thoughts and experiences instead.

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You can stay young and vital if you practice being and having the attitude that you are in control of your life in every moment. Yes, I get caught up in drama too. Who doesn’t? But drama doesn’t have to rule your life, make you unhappy and give you an ulcer. Lighten up! Always remember what it’s like to play and have fun. Find reasons to laugh. If you’re a happy person who generously shares their good humor, everyone will want to hang with you.

Stay juicy! That’s what it’s all about. If you have the kind of personality that makes you bitter about life, you will dry up and wither away. I’ve seen the most juicy 80 year olds who were adorable and engaging because they wore big inviting smiles and you wanted to be around them. You don’t lose that with age; you lose it through attitude.

Like Albert Einstein said,”We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” If you haven’t found the right solution to your problems, you have to think a different way. Start with this thought……

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Most of the time I come across folks who are stuck, I notice that’s largely because they think there’s only one solution. I believe most of us are similar. We immediately look at the worst possible scenario and never consider that we have other options or possibilities. Then fear and anxiety take a strangle hold of our brain and we can’t get out of its grip.

Good news. We always have more solutions than we know about. If you’re stuck, drop me a note and I’ll help you figure it out.

~ STAY JUICY!

 

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WHY YOU CAN’T FIND LOVE ~ STAY JUICY!

•September 10, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Remember the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”? There were lots of clues about finding a love relationship in that movie. Let’s look at a few of them.

How much do you really want a relationship? Are you sitting at home waiting for the perfect person to knock on your door like the Prince did for Cinderella? That’s a faerie tale. That won’t work. How can a partner find you if you’re hiding out?

Maybe the relationship you’re in right now is exactly what you want and need. Not sure? You’ll have to do some work to find out. What part do you play in the drama? If you change, everything about the relationship changes.

Have you given serious thought to what’s important to you? Do you know what traits are absolute deal breakers for you? What do you appreciate in a partner? Sit down and make a list that answers these questions and any others you come up with and you’ll have the first step of a plan.

You need to focus in on the kind of person you want or you just get whatever.

Check your completed list and honestly answer this question:

Are you willing to be all the things you’re asking for in another person? A wish list only works when you’re willing to give back everything you want from them. Do you want a partner who’s loving, passionate, thoughtful? You’ve got to be all that and more yourself. Someone that juicy is looking for a person who matches them. When you’re juicy, you get juicy back. So think about this…. Would you happily choose yourself?

He's Just Not That Into You

As Ben Affleck said to Jennifer Aniston when he finally came to his senses and realized how to make a relationship work:

“I HAVE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY IF I HAVE ANY HOPE OF BEING HAPPY MYSELF.”

That’s it in a nutshell, clam shell and every other kind of shell. You must be as wonderful to the person you care about, as you want them to be towards you. Only if both of you are happy, can you be happy.

If you want loving and considerate that’s what you have to be. If you want a peaceful home life, ask yourself if you’re willing to carry your share of making this happen?

If you want something , you have to work for it.

You’re in the safe zone but you aren’t having fun yet.

Wishing and hoping keep you right exactly where you are now. You want your life to get better. It starts with work on you. You have to put the effort into examining yourself and watching your patterns of behavior . You’d be surprised how many times you sabotage getting what you want. Here are some ways to start making better choices:

1.   In every moment, you always have a choice between having a problem or being okay.

Happiness is a choice you make in each moment. You can be pissed that someone was rude to you or you can remember not to let anything trivial upset your state of  mind. You can’t be happy when you’re angry and upset. The emotions of happiness and anger can’t coexist in the same space.  You get to choose between staying upset and ruining your own day, or letting it go. Make the best of every situation. Some of them are painful, embarrassing even costly. If you learn the lesson in these situations that happen, you don’t have to repeat them. Learn your lesson the first time and have fun instead of suffering.

2.     The more grateful you are for everything you have, the more you get.

Have mad gratitude for everything. That’s pretty much the secret to everything. Wake up grateful to have another day to play in. You can fall asleep tonight smarter than you were yesterday just because you got to learn the lessons of another day.  All you have to do is examine everything that happens in your day. I don’t mean the Story. I’m talking about what really happened and what it meant. Like the in the entertainment industry, the ones it takes to make the movie, the Below the Line. What happened, why, and what were the consequences to each person involved?

Figure out what part each person has in adding or subtracting from your happiness.

BE GRATEFUL, HAVE I SAID THIS ENOUGH TIMES YET?

If you have a job, walk in the door grateful to have a place to help pay for your life. It’s not your ideal job but you’re there so make the best of it. You can learn from everything. What lessons do you need to learn at this job so you can move on to the next one?

No matter what you have, if you aren’t grateful, you’re the one who keeps the universe from giving you more. You get more only when you believe you will and you believe you are worthy. And when you’re happy with what you already have.

Being happily in love requires compromise that comes from a genuine desire to have peace rather than power. Is it more important to be right or happy? That’s a choice that comes up all the time. Right can be very cold and lonely. Have you shown others in your life your gratitude for them?

3.     This is the time to change. There will never be a better time than right now.

If you want happiness and love, start working on yourself. You can turn your life around. You just have to put the work in every day. One day at a time.

Get outside of your dramas and see your part in creating them. Start doing esteemable things like helping others, smiling more often, anything that makes you feel good about yourself. Every single time you feel gratitude, you are attracting more for  you to be gratitude for in your own life. The more you give of yourself to others through a smile or kind word, the more good stuff that comes your way.

4.     And don’t forget the most important part:

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Ginnifer Goodwin ends up getting exactly what she’s always wanted, a loving, meaningful relationship. She never gave up.  Her character says something like this at the end of He’s Just Not That Into You as she’s seeing life get juicy for her:

THROUGH ALL THE PAIN OF TRYING, AND HOPING AND GETTING IT WRONG, I DIDN’T GIVE UP.

And that’s it. Never give up. You don’t know what adventures life has in store for you. Keep showing up, do the best you can and come from your heart. Your life will begin to change in ways you never expected. Guaranteed!!!

You will find the love you desire. Find it first within yourself.

You can receive love when you already have love for yourself within you. No one can fill you with their love and make you feel whole. Only you can do that for yourself.

Start showing up for yourself. Make the choices that add value to your life. Volunteer somewhere. Nothing makes you feel more grateful than helping someone else who’s less fortunate. There but for the Grace… Working with the homeless will give you a  big reality check reframe about how much you have to be grateful about.

Love yourself and everyone else. Be grateful for everything. Smile a lot. Be kind to everyone. Decide to be happy. You will become someone everyone wants to be, your authentic self. ~ STAY JUICY!

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LIFE IS AN ADVENTURE ~ STAY JUICY!

•August 24, 2012 • 2 Comments

Unhappy about past choices and experiences? Aren’t you lucky! Today and everyday you wake up is a chance to start over. Isn’t that amazing? You always get another chance.

Yep, every single day you get to make new decisions, choose new directions. If the old choices led down fruitless paths, you get to choose a new focus, a different attitude, a slight slant on what you thought you wanted before.

Sometimes when we get what we thought we wanted, the experience of having it disappoints us. There’s a good reason for this. We think things will make us happy. We try to fill our emptiness with people, places and things. We let life happen to us rather than taking the direction in our own hands. We are afraid to make decisions because then we will be responsible for the results of our choices. The great adventure of life is mystifying and terrifying at the same time. We can make the terrifying less intensive, even disappear if we understand how life really works. It’s easy if we remember a few things:

1.    WE ARE ALL PART OF NATURE ~

Have you forgotten you are just as much a part of nature as a tree or an octopus? When things get tough, get outside in nature and breathe in the air. Okay, it’s hot out there but aside from the discomfort, pay attention to everything living. See and feel the green of the shrubbery outside and inside of you. Watch how effortlessly birds trust their ability to fly. Trust you have all the resources you need. Relax into pace with nature, feel your aliveness, breathe in nature and notice how your body relaxes.

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2.     NOTHING IS PERMANENT AND THAT’S GOOD ~

Nature is constantly blooming, peaking and dying, in a timeless cyclical process. If nothing died, we’d be living in a world we couldn’t navigate because of the sheer number of bugs we’d need to walk through. Everything must wax and wane, even us. None of the inhabitants of nature worry about what they have or growing older, only man. We spend lots of time doing everything but enjoying the great adventures which are our lives. Are you really going to waste your whole life worrying about dying when you can enjoy living instead? Let’s go!

Imagine you have been dropped on the planet to attend classes in Earth School. Every experience is simply a means of teaching you a life lesson. Sure, some of them are really tough and painful. Yet pain is necessary for growth. You can learn how to look at the pain and understand the lesson life by analyzing your experiences and picking out the threads of the story of your adventure. Once you learn that lesson, you never have to repeat it. Great news.

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3.     YOU CAN MASTER YOUR LIFE ~

The secret of how to feel in control of your emotions, your circumstances and your life is to realize the truth. Life is a wonderful adventure but you must have faith first to understand this. Life seems awful scary if you think you’re at the mercy of everything and everyone. You can always change this. If you take responsibility for your choices and make new ones that are in your best interest, everything changes.

Some times you’re stuck in a situation that’s not working for you. In order to feel better, it’s helpful for you to make a decision, take a stand, leave, go to counseling, stop the behavior, say you’re sorry or whatever’s needed to make a change. When you take a proactive action to make things better, they get better. It’s an unalienable law of the universe. Try making a small decision for your highest good and see what happens.

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4.     CHOOSE HAPPINESS ~

Happiness is inexorably linked to gratitude. You will be happy in direct proportion to your sense and expression of appreciation for all things. Everything essential is already yours. The fact that you have more than 95% of the other people on the planet makes you already blessed. You are lucky enough to be living somewhere that has indoor plumbing. You can go to an emergency room if needed because we have them here. You don’t have to walk all day across a blistering desert with a five gallon jug on your head to get water for the day, only to have to return again each tomorrow.

Wake up! You have all the things you need except for a realization that what you want can’t be bought. If you feel unloved, it is your lack of love for yourself that you feel. When you love yourself, others can’t help but loving you. Once you have accepted and started loving yourself, the burden of acceptance from everyone falls off you. You find out the truth. You get what you put in. The more you give the more you get.

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5.     THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE ~

And the truth is that the more we stop looking for the imperfections in ourselves and others and start being aware of ways we can help, our lives will get better. Getting outside of ourselves and into helping others frees us from self-absorption. Helping others lets us see how fortunate we are. Complete peace comes with the acceptance that all of life is a journey toward self-understanding. We can kick and scream along the way or we can rejoice.

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Surrender to the idea that every moment of your life has been exactly perfectly orchestrated for your highest good, then hang on for a wonderful, magical ride.~ STAY JUICY ~

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NOTHING’S BETTER THAN LOVE ~ STAY JUICY!

•August 10, 2012 • 3 Comments

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Thoreau said “There must be the generating force of love behind every effort destined to be successful.”

This couldn’t be truer. If every effort you make that has the intention of loving service to others, you will generate success for you. What have you accomplished in your life that has satisfied you most and filled your soul? If you think about the events and accomplishments you are most proud of, they were probably motivated by love. This could have been the love of a sport, a hobby, a job, anything. You could have put that extra effort into something that made your parents proud when you were younger. As an adult, the loving effort you put into your relationships will gain you good friends and rewarding experiences. The essence of love lies beneath every successful action. Love is a strong motivator.

Christ said that love is the key and the way. The answer to everything is when you come from love, you get the best outcomes.

What you might consider is that the greatest of this love must be for yourself. If that sounds like I’m advocating egotistical self-absorption, I need to explain.

YOU REALLY CAN DO THESE THINGS BY LOVING YOURSELF FIRST:

1.    YOU REALLY CAN LOVE SOMEONE ELSE BETTER BECAUSE YOU LOVE YOURSELF ~

When you love yourself, you enjoy being with yourself and you enjoy being with other people. They in turn are drawn to you because you are good company. You listen well and have helpful advice if asked. Because people feel how nonjudgmentally you give advice, they flock to you. They know you want to be helpful because you know that loving advice is only given when requested from another. You are okay with your decisions and have no problem with people not agreeing with you. It’s really freeing to love yourself. You don’t agonize over what others will think of you, or worry about being judged.

When people have gratitude for the help you’ve given them, the energy of their gratitude actually flows back to you. Gratitude has a top note of love and can fill your heart. Another person’s gratitude for your help or kind words is a way for grace to come to you. We are all here to help one another. Imagine how appealing you are when this is your orientation. Everyone will appreciate you and seek you out.  Since you are such a remarkable person, someone just as remarkable will be attracted to you because they also understand what living a loving life means and they are thrilled to find someone else who understands this too.

Both of you know that the source of all love is limitless and unrestricted. You support each other’s growth and changes that need to be made for both of your good. You gladly listen and help others and your relationship can only flourish and bloom.

 

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2.     YOU REALLY CAN EXPERIENCE LASTING HAPPINESS ~

Happiness is something that comes from within you. When you are content with what you have, knowing that most of the world has so much less, you live in a state of gratitude. You realize the basics are really all anyone ever needs.

You are grateful for clean water, the air you breathe and the bountiful food of the Earth. You value yourself for what you bring to the table in terms of your efforts and actions focused on the greatest good. You inspire each other to be better people and your love for each other abounds.

Life has many challenges. An extremely great challenge is understanding that every last one of your experiences is inevitable as part of the human condition. We are attending classes in Earth school and hardship is one of the biggest lesson we learn from. Without contrast, we can’t grow. We have to know what we don’t want, to realize what we do.

Everyone falters on the steps of their lessons. Some of these lessons can be painful and even feel devastating. Disappointments and losses are all part of these lessons. When you love yourself, you are gentle with yourself and everyone else. You show yourself and everyone else the mercy of forgiveness. You realize everyone makes mistakes and needs to be forgiven.

Forgiveness sets you free. You realize painful situations are mostly the result of people not loving themselves and not acting in loving ways.  Every last person you see is suffering. It’s the human condition and how we grow. You forgive everyone for everything. You know everyone does their best. Some people are seriously disturbed or wounded and they are doing the best they can too. You try your best to be loving in nonjudgmental ways, and your life flows along harmoniously.

 

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3.     SMALL IRRITANTS DON’T KEEP YOU FROM PEACE OF MIND ~

Life happens and someone cuts you off on the freeway, your boss is a pompous fool (or worse), and you’re feeling life isn’t fair. That’s right. Life isn’t fair. Life is what you make it. When you remember that you cut cars off too, have acted in snarky ways (or worse), and been unfair to others, then, you start having perspective. Put yourself in other people’s shoes in order to gain their perspective or you’ll never realize how they might be feeling or thinking.

When you have perspective, you decide you don’t really want to ruin the rest of your day by focusing on the negative. Even though the guy not only cut you off but flipped you off too, don’t let this experience define how your day goes. That’s giving the guy who upset you already once, the power to keep upsetting you. It’s like giving your worse enemy free rent in your brain indefinitely. How many people and events are hogging all the space in your brain? Why are you allowing painful memories reinjure you? Your body doesn’t know the difference between a real incident and your thoughts. You keep causing yourself pain each time your remember a past hurt.

When you can let it all go, you are freed from the inclination to stay unhappy. When you can let the injuries, insults and betrayals go, you get to have peace of mind instead. You have brain space and energy to focus, to make better decisions and to be present in the moment, the only thing we ever have.

Best of all, you get to actually see what your day is bringing to you. Staying in a state of anger makes you miss lots of great opportunities to be amazed and amused by life.

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4.   YOU CAN HAVE LASTING HAPPINESS ~

When you love yourself, you allow your life to be an adventure. You welcome meeting new people because everyone has something to teach you. Every time you need to make a decision, practically something you do all day long, you come from a generous loving place.

People respect you and seek you out. You can physically feel the esteem and high regard in which other people hold you. Their gratitude helps attract rewarding experiences to you. Opportunities for abundance in many forms present themselves to you as you enjoy each day for its unique experiences.

Are there experiences that are still making you unhappy long after they have ended? Do you understand what price holding on to these hurtful experiences have on your peace of mind? Forgive yourself for everything you’ve done and decide to make better choices.

Remember the fastest way to happiness is to love yourself and everyone else. That means that you forgive them and yourself for everything. What a relief! Along with that comes the blessings of good emotional and physical health and a fulfilling life. More ways to ~ STAY JUICY!

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IT’S A NEW WORLD ~ STAY JUICY!

•July 25, 2012 • 2 Comments

Surrender to the idea that every moment of your life has been exactly perfectly orchestrated for your highest good, then hang on for a wonderful, magical ride.~ Lorraine Castro

So, do you believe that? Very likely not. Not that I blame you. It’s taken me at least 25 years of serious study to get to that point, but now I know it’s true! Life is a very interesting adventure and most of us are ill prepared for what awaits us. Mostly that’s due to the fact that nobody tells us how it really works. We’re brought up to think we must forge ahead and strive to accomplish and acquire as proof of our superior abilities. At the end of the line, those with the most toys are judged most successful. Some folks pull this off but it isn’t really the reason we’re here.

The first thing I wished I’d known lots sooner was that life isn’t fair. It was never set up to be. The actual true purpose of life is to grow as human beings. No one ever told me that. And if they had, I still wouldn’t have known how to go about fulfilling that mission. Life isn’t fair because if it were, everyone would have enough to eat, clean sanitary water supplies and economies that supported all members of society. There wouldn’t be have’s and have-nots. So obviously economic affluence wasn’t the main goal of life.

But now I have a better idea about life. I know that each of us has a responsibility to be of service to each other and that we can only grow ourselves if we consider the fact that everything we do has a consequence. Do you remember hearing the story of the 100th Monkey? Short overview if not: Studies have shown that monkeys on an isolated island began a new habit that was more adaptive, such as washing dirt off a fallen sweet potato before eating it, something not seen before in their behavior patterns. All of a sudden, monkeys on islands thousands of miles away started exhibiting the same behavior. Why is that?

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Obviously there is a monkey collective unconscious that connects the thoughts of all monkeys, despite distance, and allows the collective to gain from new discoveries.  Just like monkeys, human have a collective unconscious. Carl Jung linked the collective unconscious to what Freud called “archaic remnants”, or mental forms whose presence cannot be explained by anything in the individual’s own life and which seem to be aboriginal, innate, and inherited shapes of the human mind. Just like the monkeys, we are governed by this phenomenon and we gain from all of human kind’s efforts.

If more of us are hateful and selfish, thinking in terms of competition and warring against others, the collective unconscious is not going to evolve. What happens when more and more people begin to recognize that we live in a global world where all are affected by each others actions and thoughts? More people begin to understand they must take responsibility for those thoughts and actions, realizing their consequences. Because ultimately, if you hate anyone, that hate will come back to you in some form. If you want peace, prosperity and happiness for your loved ones, you have to wish that for everyone. Otherwise, it will never happen.

Luckily, we are in a new age of expanded consciousness and I believe we’ve reached the tipping point, just like the 100th monkey. There are more of us who understand the inviolate law of cause and effect. There are more people who want to see the world at peace and are willing to take personal responsibility for doing their part. It doesn’t take much. Stopping the racist, reductive and negative thoughts that run in everyone’s minds is a good start. Challenge yourself to think more generously, to help others, to imagine that everyone wants the same things you do and has the same fears.

We can all evolve faster if we try. This is a unique time in history. As Eric Schmidt, CEO of Google said, “We create as much information in two days now as we did from the dawn of man through 2003”. Pretty impressive. It’s a new dawn and a new day and a new world. Everything is happening faster and consequences are coming to bear sooner than ever before. Let’s make good decisions and think about our fellow mankind, all of them, when we do.

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Loosen up your grip on the “rules”. Stop thinking inside and outside the “BOX”. Why have a box at all? Suspend your tight hold on the way things should be and find ways to help them be better. God has infinitely more ideas about what is best for us than we possibly can imagine. Trust that your life, with all its hardships and challenges has been perfect.  Thank your stars for the incredible gift of life.  Start having mad gratitude for air to breathe, water to drink and food to eat. Shelter is a nice benefit too. All the rest is just icing. Wake up and thank God for the gift of another day and spend that day in gratitude for everything.

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Do you want to stay young and vibrant into your older years? Guaranteed this kind of living will get you there.  ~ STAY JUICY!

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TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE ~ STAY JUICY!

•July 2, 2012 • 2 Comments

All of us have a limited time here. We can focus on what we are unhappy about and wish was different, or we can embrace the fact we’re alive. If we want to enjoy our time here, we need to find ways to live life with balance and appreciation. Not so easy, right? You look around and see the government in trouble, friends out of work and everything seeming to be falling apart. There doesn’t appear to be much to appreciate. However, becoming distracted by how things look on the outside is deceiving. Across time, how many crazy groups have “drunk the koolaid” or performed other radical acts because they thought the world was ending. They honestly felt there was so much evil, damage, or whatever, that life couldn’t possibly go on. Well, here we still are. We’ve made lots of mistakes and screwed up our environment but we’re still here. It’s never too late to change. In fact, we must all change or continue to suffer.

All suffering comes from fear. If you are afraid of other’s judgment or approval, you’re already living in hell. If you live your life afraid, blaming people and circumstances for your unhappiness, you’ll be wasting the precious time you have here. I know it’s not all that easy to be brave, especially when events happen in your life that seem out of your control. Life doesn’t seem to be fair. Other people appear to get breaks, why not you?

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Everyone has challenges no matter how it looks on the outside. We are here to have difficult experiences that help us grow and evolve. Most people aren’t motivated to change unless they’re feeling discomfort or threat. This is simply the nature of the human condition. It takes focus and dedication to develop the practice of internal inquiry that gets us to the understanding of who we really are as unique human beings.

Understand that challenges are actually opportunities to expand and grow, to find out how much stronger we are than we believe. Without trials and difficult situations, we would bypass the real reason for our existence…..growth.  Socrates’ quote that the unexamined life is not worth living, speaks to this. If we believe that we’re here for fun and games, we remain only superficially involved in life. Everyone has a purpose. Real happiness comes from self-examination that leads toward finding our purpose.

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Kids don’t waste time worrying about the past. They don’t even bother to hold grudges because that gets in the way of play.

I know that we’ve all been born to serve others. That is part of everyone’s purpose, to serve. At least that’s the way I look at it now. Ever since my attitude and focus became service directed, my life has blossomed in every area and I am happier than ever before. I didn’t get here easily. I kicked and screamed like everyone else. I had two painful marriages and lots of other experiences that kicked me in the butt. I used to think it wasn’t fair. Why were these things happening to me? Well why not? Did I think I was above the ordinary life experiences we all have? Everyone has relationships that force them to examine their priorities and motives. Unhappiness is a strong motivator and no one is exempt from experiencing it.

Being unhappy for a really long time made me finally have to re-examine everything. As long as I  believed myself to be a victim of other people’s actions, I suffered. People were doing things to me. It took getting sick and tired of being miserable to get me over this suffering.

Sudden “aha’s!” helped me see that my life was a video feed of every choice I’ve ever made. Where is the victim when I can see what part my actions, choices and decisions had in creating my circumstances. I had to learn that taking responsibility for everything I did and said was the only way to redirect my life toward outcomes I preferred. Abdicating responsibility for what happens to you is like walking around with blinders, running into a wall and blaming it for your injuries.

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We all watch people make really dumb decisions and take actions that ultimately boomerang right back at them. It’s much harder to see this when we do the same thing. What goes around does truly come right back around and can potentially bite you in the ass. Until I understood that, I was a prisoner of fear. I couldn’t know who would be against me next in what situation. Because I believed I was being victimized, these types of situations came true. Our thoughts and beliefs also create our outcomes. Across my working career, I’ve had two bosszillas that were necessary for me to experience before I realized how my behavior added fodder to their fire. Had I not had those jobs, I wouldn’t have felt kicked to the curb sufficiently to let go of my stronghold on victimdom.

And what a relief to finally give it up! Freedom is understanding that there are only two choices: love or fear. Fear comes from giving away your power to others. If anyone else has the power to make you unhappy, it’s only because you’ve given away your power. No one can take it away. Yet blaming your situations on others is setting yourself up for upset. Yes, you can be fired from your job or evicted from your home, but if you don’t allow these situations to define you, you are making the decision to hold on to your power. No one can hurt you unless you allow them. If you are operating out of fear, you are setting yourself up for unhappiness.

I finally understood the only sane choice was love. That means loving yourself and making choices and decisions that are in your best interest, and not against anyone elses. An attitude of love means you are forgiving of yourself and everyone else.

What lessons have you learned from your own painful experiences? Embrace your life with gratitude and appreciation for every day you wake up again. You’re being given another day to work out the kinks on the way to self-realization and self-empowerment.

Embrace all of life, the good and bad and find you are glad to be alive in such interesting times. ~ Stay Juicy!

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