IT’S ALL ABOUT LOVE ~ STAY JUICY!
DO YOU KNOW HOW TO LOVE AND BE LOVED IN RETURN?
I’VE HEARD PEOPLE SAY THAT THEY’VE TRIED LOVE AND LOVE WASN’T ENOUGH TO GET THEIR KIDS TO ACT RIGHT, THEIR PARTNER TO DO WHAT THEY WANTED, OR FILL IN THE BLANK, ANYTHING ELSE PEOPLE THROW LOVE AT IN ORDER TO INFLUENCE CHANGE. YOU CAN’T CONVINCE THEM THEY DID ANYTHING OTHER THAN HAVE THE VERY BEST INTENTIONS FOR THE PERSON WHO ISN’T BEHAVING THE WAY THEY DESIRE.
HOW CAN LOVE BE ABOUT EXPECTATIONS OF A PARTICULAR OUTCOME? I MEAN THIS KIND OF LOVE IS NOT WHAT’S COMING FROM ANYONE’S HEART. IT SOUNDS MORE LIKE A NEGOTIATION OR MANIPULATION; KIND OF A SILENT BUT LOUD AND CLEAR MESSAGE OF HOOPS TO JUMP THROUGH IN ORDER TO REMAIN IN THEIR GOOD GRACES.
SOMETIMES NO ONE SAYS THE WORDS, BUT YOU STILL UNDERSTAND THEIR MESSAGE CLEARLY. THEY WILL LOVE YOU AS LONG AS YOU RESPOND THE WAY THEY EXPECT YOU TO BEHAVE. FORGET ABOUT BEING WHO YOU REALLY ARE AND RELAXING. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE A LOOMING SENSE OF POSSIBLE LOSS OF THEIR LOVE IF YOU AREN’T CAREFUL. WHAT A DIFFICULT WAY TO LIVE.
GUESS WHAT? NOTHING ABOUT THIS IS LOVE.
THAT’S RIGHT. LOVE IS A FEELING OF CONNECTION, CARING AND COMPASSION FOR ANOTHER.
IF YOU SAY YOU LOVE SOMEONE, YOU COULD BE MISUSING THE WORD IF THAT LOVE COMES WITH ANY EXPECTATIONS OF QUID PRO QUO, OR “WHAT DO I GET OUT OF THIS?”
AND IF YOU SHUTTER TO IMAGINE PEOPLE OUT THERE THINK LIKE THIS, CONSIDER HOW MUCH YOUR GOOD FEELINGS ABOUT THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE ARE CONTINGENT ON ANY “UNLESS YOU DO THIS OR THAT’S.”
IT’S NOT OUR JOB TO HAVE ANY ATTACHMENT TO OTHER PEOPLE’S BEHAVIOR. WE CAN’T LOVE THEM IN ORDER TO GET WHAT WE WANT FROM THEM. THAT ISN’T LOVE. PEOPLE LOVE OR THEY DON’T, AND ANYONE WHO REALLY LOVES WANTS THEIR PARTNER, CHILD, FRIEND OR RELATIVE TO HAVE THE BEST POSSIBLE LIFE, AND WILL SUPPORT THEIR DREAMS AND PASSIONS.
LOVE ISN’T A COMMODITY TO DISH OUT FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR LIKE A DOG BISCUIT. REAL LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL.
THIS MEANS YOU LOVE SOMEONE REGARDLESS WHETHER THEY DO OR SAY SOMETHING YOU DISAGREE WITH. YOU CAN HATE THE BEHAVIOR OR WORDS AND STILL LOVE THE PERSON. THIS MEANS 24/7 LOVE REGARDLESS.
BE ANGRY, UPSET AND DISAPPOINTED, BUT DON’T LET THAT ERODE YOUR LOVE.
IF SOMEONE ISN’T ACTING IN A LOVING WAY TOWARDS YOU, THEN WHY ARE YOU STAYING THERE? HOW MUCH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE DO YOU HAVE FOR THEM? WHAT LESSONS DO YOU NEED TO LEARN FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP? SOMETIMES YOU CAN LEARN THE LESSON AND MOVE ON INTO A TRUE MUTUALLY LOVING RELATIONSHIP INSTEAD. WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?
WE ARE ALL JUST TRYING TO DO THE BEST WE CAN. WE ALL WANT TO LOVE AND BE LOVED IN RETURN. IT’S A PRIMAL NEED. IF YOU DON’T HAVE LOVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH FOLKS IN YOUR WORLD, TRY BEING MORE OPEN AND AVAILABLE. GET OUTSIDE YOURSELF AND YOUR PROBLEMS AND HELP SOMEONE ELSE. JUST LISTENING TO SOMEONE CAN CHANGE THEIR WORLD. SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE NO ONE WITH WHOM THEY CAN BE REAL.
EVERYONE HAS SOME PAIN DURING THEIR JOURNEY THROUGH EARTH SCHOOL, WE ARE ALL HERE TO LEARN HOW TO BE BETTER PEOPLE, WHICH IS WHY WE ALL NEED TO LOVE AND SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER. HAVE MERCY WITH OTHERS AS YOU WOULD BE OH SO GRATEFUL TO HAVE THEM BE MERCIFUL TOWARDS YOU.
WE ARE ALL THE SAME. WE ALL WANT TO BE LOVED.
WE WILL CONTINUE TO BEHAVE IN A MANNER WE BELIEVE WE MUST IN ORDER TO GET LOVE, NOT REALIZING WHEN WE ACTUALLY LOVE OURSELVES FIRST, THEN SOMEONE WONDERFUL CAN LOVE US TOO.
HELPING OTHERS AND DISPLAYING YOUR LOVE THROUGH SERVICE IS AN EXCELLENT WAY TO BEGIN HAVING BETTER SELF-ESTEEM BECAUSE IT REALLY FEEDS YOUR SOUL LIKE NOTHING ELSE. GIVE IT A TRY.
IT’S TIME TO STOP HIDING FROM YOURSELF. WE ARE ALL POWERFUL BEINGS, HERE TO BE OF SERVICE AND TO DISCOVER OUR PURPOSE FOR BEING BY FOLLOWING OUR PASSION. LET YOURSELF RISE TO YOUR HIGHEST POTENTIAL AND SPREAD LOVE AND LIGHT EVERYWHERE YOU GO.
REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE ETERNAL. STAY YOUNG, STAY AGELESS ~
STAY JUICY!
Lorraine E. Castro, LMFT 
Thank you! I needed to hear this right now. This is the core of what you have taught me over last 19 years. Sending love from Spain– Joshua
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I’m glad to hear this from you, Joshua. I hope you are having a wonderful time and enjoying your life.
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